Life is feeling the happiness when giving to others. We can see this in many different examples throughout history but I want you to think of the most relevant things that would apply to you, right now in your life at this moment. How to do this, your feelings. Start thinking of all this times that you wanted to be noticed, felt special, thanked and simply loved. It’s those feelings that really make life worth living. A person absent of those will not live but take other roads, the kind with pot holes. You don’t want to have a bumpy road in your life. This reminds me of a real life illustration. At times we can only see the bumps and holes in the road we always drive on but when we drive into a new town/environment other than the one we are custom to, we see it as better. The other day I was driving and thought of how everything looks better when you are away from it, but when you are near it you see the imperfections or the areas that need to be improved. Now I thought of this in a nature way but think of how much this applies in relationships. At first we see beauty and hope that we will not be hurt, laughed at, but simply accepted.
There is always that risk but you move forward because of the beauty. It’s only after sometime, after you have arrived at the location that you once looked at from afar that you notice that things are not as pretty as they once were. This is when your farming skills come into play, stay with me here. Now that you have arrived, you have that new relationship, it’s time for the cultivating and nurturing of it. You have to water, remove the weeds, tend to the soil and make sure that there is sunlight. Nature is always a great resource to look at for many different areas of life. It’s organized, on a system and does not need a human to help it grow, it’s automatic.
The best relationships are the ones that over the course of time are taken care of, watered and nurtured. Everyday is not easy, peachy or whip creamy, that would just be boring. Don’t let the hurdles of life in relationships hold you up, get over it fast, there is not much time to live. Enjoy each other, say I love you, really say it, mean it. I used to be hung up on that years ago, and I know it creeps up now and then. I had a very narrowed view point of love, how to give it and who to give it to. Over the years I have learned that love is not just for my pet bird, or fish, or turtle. No, it’s for the people in my life that have loved me for me. For the person that sticks around no matter what you do, good or bad. Love is that action that breaks barriers of uncertainty. The funny thing is, I not only hear but have felt that love is hard to give because there is risk involved. The feeling of being hurt. The struggle of overcoming hurts and pains is the hardest part, but when you breakthrough it, loving others again is rewarding.
I want you to know that I love you. Yes YOU. You may be thinking but we hardly ever chat or “you don’t know me” I respond in this way. I do what I do because I love you, writing this, sharing, encouraging, giving, I do it for you. If you choose to accept great, let’s move forward. In closing of this short letter to you. I want you to know that I am always here for you and if you ever need anything simply contact me. I look forward to what the future has in store for you.
All the best,
Nathan D. Amaral
-The most important thing in life is the relationships that you have.